by: Ngozi Nwoke
“He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that rules his
spirit than he that takes a city” King Solomon. Anger is destructive and is a
destroyer of destinies. Many people have lost jobs, relationships, and
opportunities, all because of anger. Also, some people are in prison houses,
wasting their fruitful years simply because they did not control their anger.
Anger is an emotion that must be controlled before it destroys your great
future.
You need to understand that anger stems from selfishness, lack of wisdom and
understanding. In Ecclesiastes 7:9, Solomon made it clear that anger rests in
the bosom of fools. A man of wisdom and understanding will control his anger and
overlook certain wrongs done to him. People get angry because they are
considering themselves, how bad their pride or ego has been injured, how their
time, energy or money was wasted, etc.
Does it mean you are never to be angry? I will say NO, because there is also
time for you to be angry. For instance, you need to be angry enough when things
are not working well to force yourself to take steps to change the situation.
The question is what do you do when you are angry? Also how long does it linger?
Ephesians 4:26 says, “Be ye angry and sin not; let not the sun go down upon your
wrath” (KJV)
So, how do you control Anger before it destroys your future?
When one of my mentors, David Oyedepo, learned that anger lies in the bosom of
fools, he made a decision to forgive people even before they wrong him. This
attitude will keep anger far from you no matter what people say or do to you.
Sometimes, people don’t intentionally do things to make you angry. Be wise
enough to take a breath and consider the scenario before acting. Through
experience, I have learned that such short breaks diffuse the anger and allow
you to think well and make the right decision.
Evil communication corrupts good manners. If you continue with such a person,
you will learn his/her ways and snare your future. Proverbs 22:24-25
Words are powerful and are seeds that when declared will bring forth a harvest.
Don’t confess how easily you get angry; instead say how difficult it is for you
to get angry. Let the words - anger or angry - not be part of your usual
vocabulary.
This is not a sign of weakness but of strength and great wisdom. When you sense
anger building up within you, you need to just walk away from the scene or
person. That moment is not the right time to say or do anything. Anger stirs up
strife and develops problems that could have been avoided.
God crowns your effort to control anger with His own power. Many people have
tried to control anger but failed because they didn’t ask for God’s help. Anger
is a force that is out to destroy you, so you need a higher force to overcome
it.
If in the process of learning to control your anger you miss it, don’t tear
yourself apart. Every success story had failures to fight with on the way. So,
learn from your mistake and be determined to overcome next time.
Anger is a snare that should not be played with or tolerated. Many success
stories were cut short merely because of anger. Your future is bright, great and
colourful. Nothing should be allowed to destroy it, especially anger.
How else can you control anger?
About The Author
Ngozi Nwoke Is a teacher and a counselor. She has a passion to teach people how
to enjoy peace, God's love and Christian living for more fulfilling life. Want
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· Make a decision not to be easily angered.
· Don’t consider you first.
· Make no friendship with a hot-tempered man
· Watch your words
· Walk away
· Ask for God’s help.
· Don’t be angry with yourself
See Also:
Adolescent
Anger Management Ideas To Aid Both Parent And Child
Puberty can be extremely hard for both genders. On occasion, events around an
adolescent make them very mad. Several adolescents are clueless when it comes to
dealing with their anger in a positive manner. Therefore, they strike out at
those who matter most to them.
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